Have you ever tolerated something only because you didn’t want to be an ingrate?
If I had a dollar for every time a woman has told me:
- “I should just be grateful for what I have”
- “I'm just so grateful to even have a job”
We’re often reminded to appreciate the good in situations.
But when it comes to our careers, that gratitude can be taken too far.
By being overly thankful, we don't speak up for ourselves or put ourselves forward for raises, promotions, or new roles.
Gratefulness should not lead to accepting a lowball offer just because “it could be worse” or bad behavior in the name of being thankful for what you have.
On Thursday, January 18th at noon EST, I'll be hosting a free virtual event to address this very topic.
This is for you if:
- You've ever told yourself, "I should just be grateful" or "Why can't I just be happy with what I have?"
- "Gratitude" has prevented you from demanding your fair share or caused you to forget how hard you have worked to get where you are
Signs of misplaced gratitude:
- You feel frustrated working on a tight deadline for a demanding project but then remind yourself you should be grateful to have a job when many are unemployed.
- You are struggling to navigate your career path but rather than taking action, you default to thinking about how lucky you are to have the freedom to choose your career compared to those facing limited opportunities.
- In an attempt to achieve work-life balance, you remind yourself how fortunate you are to have a fulfilling career.
- When preparing to negotiate a salary raise, you back down, emphasizing to yourself how lucky you are to even have a job with a decent income.
It is this exact societal programming and nonsense that keeps women playing small.
And guess what?
You might not even realize you're doing it, because for as far back as you can recall, you were told, “Just be grateful”.
This Thursday, January 18th at noon EST, I'm hosting a free virtual event where you can share your experiences and how they have helped or hindered your career growth.
And of course, debunk the bullshit.
Please join us - link here.