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  • Writer's pictureJenny Ward

Breaking Free: From Seeking Validation to Embracing Authenticity โค๏ธ

๐Ÿคซ Can you relate to any of this?


๐Ÿ”Ž I spent longer than I care to admit seeking validation.


๐ŸŒ From literally everywhere.


โœ… Men I dated

โœ… Friends

โœ… Family

โœ… Jobs

โœ… Bosses


๐Ÿ˜š The more emotionally unavailable, the better, because if I could evoke something from that person, then I must be REALLY special.


๐Ÿ›‘ But of course, none of those people or things validated me.


๐Ÿ˜ฌ Not for any length of time anyway.


๐Ÿ˜ฅ And usually just left me worse off, seeking more validation to make up for what I'd just lost.


โญ• It was a never-ending cycle.


๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ When I started my recruiting career, I was constantly chasing people.


โœ… To get back to me.

โœ… To work with me.

โœ… To take jobs.

โœ… To sign offer letters.


๐Ÿ‘ง And when I was single and dating, I rarely stopped to ask myself if I even liked the guys I was going out with.


๐Ÿ™ I just hoped they liked me.


โœ” Because that was validating.


โžก And validation DEFINED ME.


๐Ÿ“ As I inched closer to 40, I finally began focusing on self-fulfillment INSTEAD of external validation.


๐Ÿšถโ€โ™€๏ธ Self-fulfillment through intentional choices I was making and new paths I was taking.


๐Ÿ€ I was starting to unwind the rat's nest of my inner monologue and what I'd been telling myself for as long as I could remember - about who I was and what I deserved.


๐ŸŒ And was ready to put me and my words out to the world.


๐Ÿ˜ฑ Which was terrifying.


๐Ÿ‘ But I didn't measure my success by how many likes I got on social media, or how many clients worked with me.


(Well, maybe in the first days of my business but not now.)


โค๏ธ Now I'm being my authentic self and I hope that my words, tips, and light lift up one other woman, and remind her that she can be whatever she wants to be, and can re-write her professional and personal narrative at any moment.


โ˜Ž If you're feeling stuck, lost, or just plain overwhelmed, click the link below to schedule a time to connect.


๐Ÿ˜™ Trust me when I say, it's never too late to stop living in reaction mode.


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