🤫 Can you relate to any of this?
🔎 I spent longer than I care to admit seeking validation.
🌍 From literally everywhere.
✅ Men I dated
✅ Friends
✅ Family
✅ Jobs
✅ Bosses
😚 The more emotionally unavailable, the better, because if I could evoke something from that person, then I must be REALLY special.
🛑 But of course, none of those people or things validated me.
😬 Not for any length of time anyway.
😥 And usually just left me worse off, seeking more validation to make up for what I'd just lost.
⭕ It was a never-ending cycle.
🏃♀️ When I started my recruiting career, I was constantly chasing people.
✅ To get back to me.
✅ To work with me.
✅ To take jobs.
✅ To sign offer letters.
👧 And when I was single and dating, I rarely stopped to ask myself if I even liked the guys I was going out with.
🙏 I just hoped they liked me.
✔ Because that was validating.
➡ And validation DEFINED ME.
📏 As I inched closer to 40, I finally began focusing on self-fulfillment INSTEAD of external validation.
🚶♀️ Self-fulfillment through intentional choices I was making and new paths I was taking.
🐀 I was starting to unwind the rat's nest of my inner monologue and what I'd been telling myself for as long as I could remember - about who I was and what I deserved.
🌏 And was ready to put me and my words out to the world.
😱 Which was terrifying.
👍 But I didn't measure my success by how many likes I got on social media, or how many clients worked with me.
(Well, maybe in the first days of my business but not now.)
❤️ Now I'm being my authentic self and I hope that my words, tips, and light lift up one other woman, and remind her that she can be whatever she wants to be, and can re-write her professional and personal narrative at any moment.
☎ If you're feeling stuck, lost, or just plain overwhelmed, click the link below to schedule a time to connect.
😙 Trust me when I say, it's never too late to stop living in reaction mode.
